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All of us looking for a success on every level. At some extent everyone got success but very less people are able to identify their success. Everyone is running for success for they want more and more. We forgive to be thankful what we got. We run for tomorrow but we forgot our today and also yesterday. Our life never is same on today tomorrow or on yester. Not only life is different every day, we ourselves keep angels every day.

So it is need that we show our thankfulness for whatever we got in our life.  This is the simple way to achieve abundance in our life. Let’s talk something about abundance in your relationship. Now please don’t give that surprise expression yes, I mean it, you can achieve that.

Now I am going to tell you the key of successful relationship. It is very simple what you want to achieve start giving same thing to other. My readers now don’t think too much, it is practical, some give the word to it as karma, some says it is law of attraction, some call it as an power of thought no matter what or how concept is being called but it is really true that what you throw out in the universe through your thought or by action it will come back to you inform of abundance. That’s why I said what you want give it to others and it will come back to you.

One of my friend told me her story, she is seven years back get in relationship with her boyfriend. In a routine lifestyle they forgot small things to be such as thankful for each other, after some beautiful year misunderstanding try to paint their life with black color. Quarrel started among them then they start to fight. Both love each other but things are not going smooth.  After some sessions of counseling, days are different they again start enjoying each other. Only magic in her case is the thanks action. When her husband comes back after so hectic day she just made his favorites sandwich. While serving she said that “thanks, you work hard for us full day”. Her husband got surprise and after that day they don’t know how to fight. My friend gets by giving things.

My friend changes her attitude towards life instead of thinking what he has given to me, she start to think what I can do for him. This attitude changed her life. Yes friend this thinking also can change your life and also relationship try it and don’t forget to give me feedback ….. I am sure it will work.

Before going to tell anything clear your idea about stepping back. Tacking step back does not mean rejection. It would be first stage of rejection. Relationship some times has twisted blows in between cold and hot. What you are thinking as a stepping back may be at that time you are passing in cold relationship. So let the time go or think how you can turn your cold relationship into hot.

Do these things when your love is stepping back

Communicate with- it is not necessary what you are thinking about your mate is correct fully. There are other possibilities also such as your mate may go from work stress or other stress. So his/her behavior goes different and you thought that he/she is stepping back. Best way to deal with your suction is communicate with him. Talk to him/her. Express your feeling in appropriate words.

Be cool and calm- when any one gets the idea that love is stepping back. It hurts, really and suction gets panic. Some reacted violently and some exactly do opposite they start to communicate with mate and start to torched him/herself. One needs to handle the suction very careful. One wrong step may become cause to destroy relationship. When you realize that you realize that your love is stepping back do first thing be cool and claim don’t over react. Let some time go to decide your love whether he/she want to be with you or not. May be you are thinking in a wrong way. If he/she is really stepping back be cool and handle suction calmly. Remember your anger will not going to slave any problem.

Let him/her decide- let your love decide what he/she wants. You only convey your feeling and tell your love to take decision he/she want to be with you or not. Don’t show any regrets for your love.

Make yourself more interesting- learn what your love wan from you? Try to give what love want? It is possible that what your love want you can offer him/her such as adventure in relationship, more excitement in relationship etc. check yourself are you concise about body hygiene, are you making your relation uninteresting check whether things goes wrong at your side. If you find anything wrong at yourself try to correct it. Make yourself more interesting by look and your behavior. 

Few simple tips-

1.     Don’t get panic

2.     Never over react

3.     Don’t be negative

4.     Don’t force him/her for commitment

5.     Don’t force for love

6.     Never ask same question about relationship again and again

7.     Don’t change your behavior with him/her

8.     Show your emotional support to your love

9.     Show your trust to him/her

10.     f your love decided to leave you respect his/her decision

Life is full of twist and turn in. If we don’t have that in our life, it will become really boring. Sometimes this twist made us panic and in dating life it happens many times. In every relationship we found our self alone for some time. If the suction occurs for long time it will be really panic.  Your spouse doesn’t sympathize when you are in grief or doesn’t understand you when you are feeling low. You dial persona but every time you get engage tone he / she is unavailable emotional. This emotional unavailability hurts mate and many times can fractured relationship.

What is emotional unavailability

An emotionally unavailable person cannot build physical closeness, despite being there physically. You know the monosyllabic conversation you have with your partner when he's stict to a sport match. Imagine that to be his or her response to every situation. Such individuals give a feeling of not being available when the other one needs them the most, be it sister, parent, friend or spouse. They wouldn't be the first person you would call up in times of crisis or distress. Those on the receiving end of such a relationship feel unloved. Mike my friend told “ I am really stress because of my office work and that I want to share with my mate Reena but whenever I want to start the topic she is to be busy in  housework or she is busy in painting her face. I tired lot of time to share my feelings with her but it seems she is not interested it makes me more stress.  Now I always went to my club whenever I am surrounded by stress black clouds. I need my mate with me emotional as well as because of her behavior I found sex with her less interesting.

Once emotional unavailability becomes a way of life, it is difficult for a person to feel comfortable in intimacy. A long term of therapy to deal with childhood issues may bring some security to the person.

Emotional neglect is very harmful to relationships as the other person is not there, sometimes even physically. Such a person finds every excuse to avoid situations which demand emotional attention, instigating the spouse to look for another emotional anchor. A child deprived of emotional security may extract it from the other parent, sibling or spouse. However, an unresponsive spouse makes the other feel unwanted and unloved, raising levels of discontentment in the relationship, and eventually leading to the partner to seek an anchor outside the marriage. A woman may turn her complete attention on the children, which can lead to over-protection and over-obsessive behavior.

How to you can deal with it

Firstly, avoid taking the responsibility of changing this person, parent, spouse or friend. Try not to smother them with too much attention and divert your attention by taking up an assignment. The key is to avoid thrusting the responsibility of your happiness upon this person, as this will only lead to pain and disappointment. Cliché as it sounds, accept him or her the way she/he is. Therapy would certainly help, but for YOU! The emotionally unavailable person rarely feels the need for it!

Emotionally distant people keep everyone at bay — they have no relationships or attachments. They are loners. An emotionally unavailable person is surrounded by people, has friends, cousins, protégés, and associates but does not belong to anyone.

Stealthy emotional neglect can break down a relationship. It needs to tackle it in time.